what you’re experiencing may look, feel, or show up in the following ways: 

Symptoms of Anxiety

• somatic/body-based sensations of feeling “keyed up,”rapid breathing or heart rate

• specific areas of tension or tightness in body

• difficulting “settling”

• rumination and intrusive thoughts

• fixations or obsessive thinking or actions

• insomnia

• somatic illness

• persistent ambivalence about your relationship or continually replaying future and past events in your mind

Symptoms of Codependency

• people pleasing/fawning

• continually putting the needs of others before your own

• hypervigilance focused on the emotional or physical wellbeing and responses of others

• difficulty handling conflict or perceived criticism

• a long standing disconnection from your own needs, desires, and boundaries.  

Symptoms of Depression 

• sleeping too much or sleeping too little

• changes in appetite

• increased irritability

• restlessness

• feelings of hopelessness

• poor self worth or self image

• avoidance of social interactions or otherwise pleasurable activities

• feelings of numbness or disconnection

• difficulty “going with the flow” when things don’t go as planned

• excessive anger or criticism of others

Symptoms of Trauma

Trauma events and ruptures in your early attachment period and with family of origin. 

Symptoms of Relational and Attachment Challenges 

• history of distressing relationship patterns

• choosing the same “wrong” partner over and over again

• finding reasons to leave as soon as a relationship becomes more close and intimate

• difficulty trusting your partner or receiving and believing their reassurance despite your desire for it

• persistent worries about your partner abandoning or rejecting you, during times of distress

• when in distress you act in ways that may be harmful to yourself or your partner

• becoming too attached to your partners too quickly